The Witch Who Builds Her Own Ladder

Hey witches,

I hope y’all have been having a magical week so far. It’s been a little bit since I last posted, I was sick and then I celebrated my birthday. I didn’t do anything extraordinary, just some camping and reflecting, as one does on a birthday. It’s crazy how your perspective on birthdays evolve as you experience them and get older, but that’s a post for another time; I’ll definitely talk about aging at some point. 

Right now, I’m just trying to savor the feeling of being well rested, a rarity for anyone these days. I am having to dedicate my newfound energy into getting back into the swing of things, though, one of which is writing consistently again. Getting back into a story or whatever your focusing on can be a stuttering start, like a car that’s been sitting in a garage for a couple years. 

Writing isn’t something I want to pursue as a hobby but I want to make it a part of my life. I want to become a prolific author, maybe not Stephen King level but have some notable work behind me. As I balance writing with the rest of my life obligations, I realize this is an opportunity to use my polyamory skills. I want to date creativity like a partner and ensure I spend time with this part of myself. To do that, I have to incorporate some of the things I’ve learned from my dating life that I’m going to share with you.

First things first, it’s okay to take some time apart. You don’t have to spend every moment with a new partner, nor should you consider it healthy. You have to take some time for yourself and some space. Continue to do the things you enjoy, experience new things and when you return, you’ll have more experiences and creative influences.

Right now, I’m in the stages of the new relationship, and getting back from a separate vacation where I did my own thing. Sure, it may take a little bit to get back into writing consistently, but as we spend time together, things will eventually flow and become more habitual.

I’m trying to court my writing like a beloved, taking time to go places and experience things that I can tell it about. It’s also a good experience in mindfulness in the sense that I have to be in tune with my senses and describe them. It’s a good way to force myself to experience things in the moment so I can provide this feeling through my writing. 

Like having a partner and finding things attractive in other people, you have to have other hobbies besides one another. That’s why here, at the witch who builds her own ladder, we work to be a well rounded witch because it benefits our lives in more ways than one. We’re trying to be well-rounded whores, if you will. I remember reading this in a dating book, and it was mentioned that you don’t want to date someone who is one-dimensional, so why would you think that someone would want that as well?

See your creative pursuit like a partner where you dedicate time and introspection. Do date nights, add this important time to your calendar and create transparency, both within yourself and to other people. Having that scheduled time, like you would a lover, helps. Sometimes it’s also good to do it with people and sometimes it’s good to do it alone. Experiment like you would in your love life and try a variety of things, see what works best for you. Be an ethical slut with it. Talking with your current partner(s) about your dreams and wants in this area is vital. They should be supportive of you trying to pursue your dreams and vice versa. 

Have that time and make it non-negotiable. Put phones away, spend that time to truly hone your creativity and do what you want to do. Whether it’s something creative or something else that you just want to spend time on. Maybe you want to make life size figures of celebrities out of soap. You do you, whatever that is and make time for it. It’s a part of yourself, as I’ve learned, can be non-negotiable to express. It takes some time to become an expert in things and to become an expert, you must practice a mammoth amount.

There is definitely a lot of overlap with dating, I think I could take my scheduling skills towards this and find ways to fit both in. Find time with both yourself and your craft, but be sure to be present in those moments so you can obtain true balance in your activities. Treat your creativity like the lover it deserves to be. Schedule the date, commit to the time, and be an ethical slut in your pursuit of a prolific life.

Until next time, take care of yourself and look out for each other.